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    • Do You Require Urgent Assistance?
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  • Who are Men and Trauma?
    • Our Locations >
      • Our Auckland Team
      • Our Central Team
      • Our Wellington Team
      • Our Nelson West Coast Team
      • Our Canterbury Team
    • Our Leadership Team
    • Vision and Mission >
      • Charitable status
    • Who We Work With
  • Having Difficulties from trauma and abuse?
    • What do we mean by Trauma >
      • What causes Trauma?
      • Effects of Trauma
    • I'm really struggling with >
      • Child Abuse
      • Suicidal thoughts and behaviours
      • Intimate Partner Violence
      • Anger and Rage after Trauma
      • Anxiety and Depression
      • Addictions
      • Feeling Numb
    • What is Sexual Abuse? >
      • Have I Been Sexually Abused?
      • Disclosing Sexual Abuse
      • Child Sexual Abuse
      • Sexual Harm
    • Male Sexual Abuse in New Zealand >
      • Facts VS. Myths
      • 17 Reasons
  • How we help males recover from trauma and abuse
    • What is peer support >
      • Who are Peer Support Workers?
      • 1 to 1 Peer Support
      • Peer Support Groups
      • Peer Support For Sexual Abuse
      • Peer Support Enquiry Form
    • 1-on-1 counselling
    • Confidential Listening Service
    • Families & Partners of Survivors
    • Tell Us Your Story
  • Rainbow, LGBTQI+ & Takatāpui Services
    • Will This Service Be Right for Me?
    • What Questions Can I Ask A Counsellor?
    • ​Frequently Asked Questions
    • Rainbow Takatāpui: Resources
  • Resources
    • Academic Research
    • Recommended Websites
    • Articles
    • Media Videos

Families & Partners of Survivors

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 Partners are quite often the first person a man will tell of the sexual abuse.  Telling does not mean however that the shame, guilt, fear of people questioning his manhood or sexuality that led him to keep the abuse secret just goes away.   

Partners, report pressure to take on and keep the secret. This has an effect of isolating these partners from important sources of personal support for them at a time they most need it.


The pressure partners can feel to act as sole supporter is too much to expect of one person. We know that being well connected and supported is important for our health and well being. However, current men’s health research notes men are less likely to access health care and counselling than women, men have smaller social support networks than women and men are unlikely to have a close confidant other than their spouse. This lack of support compounds problems for couples dealing with sexual abuse, leaving both parties struggling to cope. (Gary Foster, LivingWell)

Resources 

This page is rich with resources for families, partners and all loved ones of survivors.

We've covered off many the essential things you need to know about effectively supporting your loved one in recovery.

We also look at what you need for yourself to stay secure and supported in this relationship.
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Remember, at Men and Trauma we are here to support you, as you support your loved one through recovery. Find out about our Partners of Male Survivors Support Groups
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Useful Links & Resources
  • Information for Partners of Male Sexual Abuse Survivors
  • Road to Recovery: 7 Steps to Helping a Male Survivor of Sexual Abuse Heal
  • Partners of Male Survivors Need Support Too
  • Guidance for Partners of Childhood Abuse
  • Support for Friends & Family
  • What Can Friends & Family Members Do to Support Survivors of Sexual Abuse?
  • How To Help My Male Identified Friend
  • Supporting Your Partner
  • Relationship Changes After A Partner's Experience of Sexual Abuse
  • Information for Partners
  • When Your Partner Was Sexually Abused As A Child
  • Help Someone You Care About
  • Partner Sexual Abuse Questions and Answers
  • Supporting A Survivor of Sexual Assault
  • For Family and Friends of Men Who Have Been Abused​
  • How To Help Your Partner Cope with Male Sexual Abuse

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