Peer Support can be defined as the help and support fellow survivors of sexual abuse provide each other. It's different from the relationship you have with a clinician or qualified counsellor.
The Peer Support dynamic is very special and powerful in your journey to healing and recovery from sexual abuse. Peer Support can be social, emotional or practical support. With Peer Support, we are all on the same playing field.
Strength is gained from sharing with another who has walked where you are now walking. People engage with each for support that is based on mutual learning from their shared lived experience. The support may include a mix of self-help, mutual (one on one) support, group support and mentoring initiatives. This is what makes Peer Support so crucial in the recovery process. There is no stigma, no isolation and no shame. Just shared experience and the solidarity that can only be shared between men who have experienced sexual abuse, child abuse or other violence.
Many male survivors of abuse face difficulties in their relationships with friends, family/whanau and workmates and experience problems interacting with support service providers. Effective peer support hinges on safe and trusted relationship between the individual and their peer-support-worker that can provide a real opportunity for stability from chaos and true healing.
Can I get peer support if I am seeing a therapist? Peer support is not counselling. You can get peer support while seeing your therapist.
Click HERE to learn more about how you can meet a Peer Support Worker and maybe join a Peer Support Group and what the process would be like. If you are a survivor of child abuse, sexual abuse, or other violence, Men and Trauma can offer you:
Outside Wellington you may want to join one of our zoom groups.
If you are a survivor of sexual abuse anywhere in New Zealand, you can share in our Confidential Listening Service via phone, txt, email or any online method. We can also direct you toward support services in your area.
Key Benefits of Peer Support We believe that Peer Support works best in combination with counselling and other therapy.
Benefits of Peer Support include:
Shared connection, empathy and respect. We know what you're going through. We've been there too.
Increased self-confidence and self-esteem
Reduced depression and anxiety
Increased socialisation and reduced isolation
Getting your anger under control
Reduction in harmful use of alcohol and/or drugs
Understanding the impacts of abuse
Getting more from friendships and family relationships
Increased ability to trust yourself and others
Reduced self-destructive behaviour
Decreased negative behaviours.
How do I join a group? You can join a male peer support group by talking to one of trained peer support workers. Men contact by phone, txt, fb chat, our booking form or through someone they know. A peer worker will then contact you to arrange an Individual or One to One support session. This session can be by in person or by whichever method you prefer. In the session the peer worker will explain the various support options we provide. They will help you decide what path forward is best for you: this may be receiving individual peer support, joining a group or seeing one of our counsellors or therapists.
Click HEREto learn more about how you can meet a Peer Support Worker and maybe join a Peer Support Group and what the process would be like.
"If you're ready to move forward into a life free from the abuse you suffered, search out others who can truly support you on your journey.”- Anonymous